🔥 Kink, Attachment & Somatics
A House of Play Workshop with Li Tadaa
Is your play opening you… or replaying old wounds?
I’ve spent over 10 years in the sex-positive, kink, and tantra world. I’ve had ecstatic highs, deep connections – and I’ve also had crashes, confusion, and painful patterns show up in love, sex, and play.
That’s why I created this workshop.
I want to offer you a space to get radically honest about your play –
Is it bringing you into deeper connection, or is it sometimes overwhelming or leaving you feeling off-center?
Is it helping you stay present… or taking you somewhere else entirely?
✨ In this 3-hour journey, I’ll invite you to:
Explore whether your play is healing or reenactment
Feel into how present you actually are when you're in your desires
Recognize the difference between adult sexual longing and unmet childhood needs
Discover how your nervous system responds to intensity—so you can stay more grounded and sovereign
Connect to play that is conscious, mature, and alive without needing to perform or escape
We’ll use tools from somatic trauma therapy, attachment work, relational inquiry, and embodied awareness – but we’ll also dance, play, and have fun. Because for me, joy and connection are the foundation for deeper healing.
WHAT TO EXPECT:
Dance, Play and Connect!
Somatic Awareness – Recognize your nervous system states & grounding tools
Understanding Your Childhood Needs – Inner parts, attachment, unmet longings
Embodied Adult Play – What mature, conscious, connected play can feel like
READ MORE DETAILS AT THE BOTTOM
WHO IS IT FOR?
For you who want to understand the deeper emotional layers behind your play and “do the work” even if it’s uncomfortable.
This workshop is not for complete beginners – it’s for those of you who’ve been playing for a while and feel ready to go deeper into awareness, embodiment, and emotional understanding
You need to have some basic ability to hold yourself if something big comes up
SHOULD I BRING A PARTNER?
No partner is needed, and all constellations are welcome – singles, couples, throuples, undefined.
WHAT TO WEAR
Wear something comfortable that you can move freely in
WHAT TO BRING:
A water bottle with a lid
Maybe a notebook
Your beautiful self exactly as you are
TICKETS
240 kr for members, 300 kr for non-members
20% Discount for Students and people with low-income, please reach out to us at info@houseofplay.dk
Tickets are non-refundable.
Be sure to read our cancellation policy and no-show fee here.
Please be aware that the workshop starts on time and it will not be possible to arrive later.
CHILI
🌶️ 🌶️ OF 4: You will be more emotionally challenged than sexually challenged in this workshop, I would call it a “Two Chilli” 🌶️ 🌶️ workshop, but if there were emotional chillies, that could be three or four – we will have emotional support in the room)
Read more about the House of Play Chili system here.
💌 Come Play With Me
I don’t want to tell anyone how to play.
I’m not here to shame anyone’s desire.
But I am here to offer more options – so that your kink, your turn-on, your rituals of intimacy and pleasure can come from a place of clarity, presence, and deep self-love.
Let’s Grow up – together.
With love,
Li Tad
ABOUT LI
Li Tadaa is a renowned workshop leader in Europe, a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, a dancer, and a Lust Coach with more than 15 years of experience in movement and embodiment. We have the pleasure to receive Li in CPH, since she in town for the Alive Tantra Festival the days before the workshop.
Li’s knowledge of dance and routes to pleasure from traditions around the globe is combined with an understanding of the nervous system, dance therapy, somatic trauma healing, shamanism, and meditation practices.
Through her Dance Into Your Lust and Grow Up programs, Li has helped over a thousand people reconnect with their inner safety, pleasure, and adult selves.
Read more about Li at www.litadaa.com and follow her on Instagram.
🧠 Some background theory we’ll touch on:
Using Intensity to Dissociate into Ecstasy
Example: intense spanking, blindfolds, tantric orgasms, etc.
✨ Potential benefits: bliss, new perspectives, escape from anxiety.
⚠️ Potential risks: disconnection from emotions, reinforcing flight/freeze states, relying on leaving the body to feel pleasure.
→ Solution: Learn to recognize your nervous system states and practice playing within your window of tolerance.
Unmet Childhood Needs Driving Adult Sexual Desires
Example: Feeling anxious before play but great relief after, feeling desperate for play, feeling low or anxious when you don’t get it.
✨ Potential benefits: Can be an efficient way to move out of difficult emotions, better than numbing with substances; can be part of healing.
⚠️ Potential risks: addiction to sexual highs, anxious/avoidant dynamics or emotional dependency in relationships, reenactment of trauma.
→ Solution: Learn to meet childhood needs in non-sexual ways and engage from your mature self in adult play.
What does “overcoupling” mean?
In somatic trauma therapy, overcoupling refers to when two experiences or emotions get neurologically “tied together” as one. Often, this is a leftover strategy from childhood.
Examples:
I cry instead of getting angry – because anger wasn’t safe growing up.
I get horny every time I’m anxious – because masturbation or sex became my way to self-soothe.
I can’t be alone – because I overcoupled romantic love with parental safety.
When we bring presence to these patterns, we can start to untangle them – and open up new possibilities for how we relate, love, and play.